anger and speech

I have been thinking a lot about anger and controlling my tongue. The habit of talking when angry is an addiction to sleep. Like dietary habits where I do not have control losing my temper orr eating haram meat shows a lack of self-control.

A lot off the spiritual path is about self-control. It says in Galatians: 13You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature[a]; rather, serve one another in love. 14The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself."[b] 15If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.

Life by the Spirit
16So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. 17For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want. 18But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law.
19The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

22But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. 25Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

Galatians 5:16-26.

I have been working a lot with the concept of forgiveness. And with the concept of satisfaction.

This all goes back to the concept of joy. Joy is about being truly happy for the blessings in one's own life and the lives of others. Anger detroys joy as does excessive talk about life that is negative and unsspiritual.

To be quiet and patient in trouble will lead to being happy and joyful.

This is a practical matter. The path to holiness requires controlling one's tongue and one's anger. This is based on patience and humility before God.


we look at Palestine and the anger and hatred there between the Palestinians and the Jews. How can we expect there to be peace in Israel if we can't control our own anger in our privileged lives in the Bay Area? What do I really have to hold against anyone. I should be able to forgive anyone and not stay angry with people. I should be able to take the pressure of my own discomfort.

It has been narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) That Allah's Messenger Muhammad (PBUH ) Said:

“ The strong is not the one who over comes the people by his strength”
"But the strong is the one who controls him while in anger."
In another narration by Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him man said to the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH ) Advise me.
The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Said :

" Do not become angry “
The man asked the same question again and again and the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Replied by in case by saying:

“ Do not become angry and furious”


This iss the same message as Galatians. do not become angry. practice self-control. When we think about the gnostiic message that the soul was caught in this lower realm and would try to escape to a higher state upon death we think that anger is a way to keep the soul trapped and polluted it is interference.